tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6747600011053979157.post5805145118711662236..comments2023-06-26T08:58:51.987-07:00Comments on My Bead Journal: Home Again, At LastLois2037http://www.blogger.com/profile/04776736493772592187noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6747600011053979157.post-83785596674970095552007-09-06T06:44:00.000-07:002007-09-06T06:44:00.000-07:00Lois, first off, I'm so sorry to hear of your Moth...Lois, first off, I'm so sorry to hear of your Mother's passing. I lost my Dad back in '91 to lung cancer. He smoked 2-3 packs a day. I guess I never picked up the habit as I had to clean the ash trays & it grossed me out so bad. My Father was only 60. I miss him every day. Next, I wanted to agree with you that our country is so beautiful to drive across. In June we did the from Ohio to Wyoming & back. LOVED every minute of it, even through Nebraska which was more beautiful than I imagined. Third, love you BJP project. The colors are so vibrant & alive.<BR/><BR/>dotflyingbeaderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14552477017906406473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6747600011053979157.post-25917655350998747852007-09-05T11:17:00.000-07:002007-09-05T11:17:00.000-07:00Lois,I'm so glad you got to be with your mother, p...Lois,<BR/>I'm so glad you got to be with your mother, play jewelry dress up and say your good-byes. My heart goes out to you now...<BR/>Many hugs and well-wishes coming your way,<BR/>Lin MoonLin Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14088659161994313808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6747600011053979157.post-25760153006686711502007-09-01T23:53:00.000-07:002007-09-01T23:53:00.000-07:00Thanks for all your good thoughts! This has not b...Thanks for all your good thoughts! This has not been exactly easy to handle, and your support really means a lot!<BR/><BR/>To answer your question, freebird, you can easily tell if you are confronted by a two-way mirror. Touch the surface with a fingertip. If there is a space between your finger and the reflection, it is just a mirror, with the reflective surface painted behind the glass. If there is NO SPACE between your finger and the reflection, the reflective surface is on the front and it is two-way. Also, two-way mirrors appear somewhat darker than a regular mirror, which is what got me suspicious. Two mirrors over the sinks were lighter than the third. I learned this from reading Dear Abby long ago, when someone asked how you can tell if you're being spied upon through a department store mirror in a dressing room.Lois2037https://www.blogger.com/profile/04776736493772592187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6747600011053979157.post-10429299920594139362007-08-31T19:14:00.000-07:002007-08-31T19:14:00.000-07:00I am so glad you got to be with your mom. Hospice...I am so glad you got to be with your mom. Hospice is wonderful. Glad you got to have a trip to let off steam and come to grips with your feelings. I'll have to check out those mirrors; how in the world did you find that out?Timareehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15769047120660859743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6747600011053979157.post-28578054412673565022007-08-30T12:04:00.000-07:002007-08-30T12:04:00.000-07:00I know that it was therapeutic to yell at your mom...I know that it was therapeutic to yell at your mom through several states. I still yell at my brother (and he's been gone for three years) about not being a compliant patient.<BR/><BR/>But you, like me, was there at the end and that's important.<BR/><BR/>(And yes, this country is wonderful to see. I love Wyoming!!)<BR/><BR/>Take care<BR/><BR/>Liz - MichiganThe bad Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13872470421712970604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6747600011053979157.post-32101661241032200552007-08-30T09:48:00.000-07:002007-08-30T09:48:00.000-07:00Lois what an amazing journey that was for you. I'...Lois what an amazing journey that was for you. I'm pleased you were able to be there with your dear Mother to the end, I am so sorry for your loss. I'm sure your Mom appreciated you being there & to allow her to go with dignity..<BR/><BR/>My own dear Mother has emphysema in one lung, from being a passive smoker most of her life. She is now a frail 90 years old & the cold damp months are hard on her. I know I will lose her soon & I hope I can face it with half the courage you have.<BR/><BR/>I'm sure your beading will be a time of healing for youEllenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03069497824428680505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6747600011053979157.post-18327382269944532932007-08-30T09:35:00.000-07:002007-08-30T09:35:00.000-07:00I'm so sorry for your loss but glad, for your sake...I'm so sorry for your loss but glad, for your sake, that you were able to be with her for so long. To have no regrets is very precious.<BR/>And I suspect the beading will be immensely healing for you, as well.beadbabe49https://www.blogger.com/profile/08270938730730250964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6747600011053979157.post-22704910340822409262007-08-30T07:37:00.000-07:002007-08-30T07:37:00.000-07:00A truly remarkable story.I am glad you spent the e...A truly remarkable story.I am glad you spent the extra week, to be with her at the end of her life here. There is something beautiful and peaceful about that moment.Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08772558434444483766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6747600011053979157.post-22452188801430218912007-08-30T07:19:00.000-07:002007-08-30T07:19:00.000-07:00Lois, My heart goes out to you.I lost my mom in 19...Lois, My heart goes out to you.<BR/>I lost my mom in 1999. She also had been a heavy smoker but hers turned into cancer. It was also long and drawn out. I know what you mean about that last day. I set with my mom that last day and rubbed lotion on her legs and we talked about all sorts of stuff. I wouldn't take a million dollars for that day. <BR/>I don't know about getting smoke off of paintings, but I do know that 409 worked really well for other stuff I cleaned from her home.<BR/>Take very good care of yourself.<BR/>I am glad your home safe.<BR/>Hugs,<BR/>Sunnishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14249436288461150579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6747600011053979157.post-56305839539154447822007-08-30T06:59:00.000-07:002007-08-30T06:59:00.000-07:00((((Hugs))). I'm sorry to learn of your mother's ...((((Hugs))). I'm sorry to learn of your mother's death, although so glad you were there. It sounds like your trip involved several journeys at once. Take care of yourself. Susana2susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09915341461411686995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6747600011053979157.post-54552951800166032702007-08-30T02:54:00.000-07:002007-08-30T02:54:00.000-07:00Thank you, for sharing this very personal account ...Thank you, for sharing this very personal account of your journey. I am pleased that you got to spend this time with your Mother and were able to be with her at the end. I think you are right, there is much more regret in things that we don’t do than the things we do.<BR/><BR/>My best wishes for you and your family.<BR/><BR/>CAcoral-seashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08876196936807771078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6747600011053979157.post-54428118830790290902007-08-30T01:31:00.000-07:002007-08-30T01:31:00.000-07:00Lois, I'm so sorry you lost your mom. I know how s...Lois, I'm so sorry you lost your mom. I know how sad that can be. I also know just how angry you can get at someone who isn't there anymore. My mom did much the same thing to my stepfather of 30+ years. I still get angry when I think about it.<BR/><BR/>I'm glad you were there for her. It sounds like your brother is quite a guy. Step, half, or whole, your family is what you make of it. <BR/><BR/>Bless you and your family in this time of grief.<BR/>Arlineabeadladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01555153139492418505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6747600011053979157.post-35714080484441548462007-08-29T23:41:00.000-07:002007-08-29T23:41:00.000-07:00Ah, Lois --Times like these surely try our souls. ...Ah, Lois --<BR/><BR/><BR/>Times like these surely try our souls. Part of us wants to help and love our parent and part of us wants to give them a good shaking. But the important thing is that you were there for her. And that will always be the best you could do for her.<BR/><BR/>I have moved across the country twice in my lifetime and still haven't seen all there is to see. You are right -- that long, long drive was the best medicine for you at this point in time.<BR/><BR/>Wishing you some peaceful moments and thoughts . . .<BR/><BR/>Kathy V in NMKVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14893455571484379148noreply@blogger.com